The Serenity Prayer

Few prayers have traveled as far, or touched as many lives, as The Serenity Prayer. It is known to millions through Alcoholics Anonymous and other Twelve Step programs.

It began life not as a recovery tool but as a theologian’s private petition — a moment of honest reckoning with the limits of human will and the necessity of divine grace.

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1 Reinhold Niebuhr

2 Epictetus Stoic Roots

3 Some Thoughts

4 Explore The Serenity Prayer

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Reinhold Niebuhr

The prayer is rooted in the work of Reinhold Niebuhr, one of the most influential American theologians of the twentieth century.

Niebuhr wrote his original version sometime in the 1930s or 1940s — the exact date remains uncertain — as part of a sermon.

In his version, courage came first: the courage to change what *must* be changed, not merely what *can* be.

Serenity followed as the capacity to accept what lies beyond our reach, and wisdom as the discernment to tell one from the other.

Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.

That ordering matters.

Niebuhr was no quietist – a person who advocates or practices quietism, a doctrine of calm acceptance, spiritual passivity, and withdrawal from worldly concerns.

Rather, his theology held that faith demands action, and that accepting what cannot be changed is not passivity but clarity.

Epictetus Stoic Roots

What makes the prayer so enduring, however, is that its insight did not originate with Niebuhr.

Its roots reach back nearly two thousand years to the Stoic philosopher Epictetus, a former slave who taught that the whole art of living rests on a single distinction: what is within our power, and what is not.

For Epictetus, freedom did not come from controlling the world around us — it came from recognizing, with absolute honesty, that we cannot.

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own . . .” —EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES, 2.5.4– 5

The prayer is, in this sense, ancient wisdom dressed in the language of Christian petition.

Some Thoughts

That lineage — from Epictetus through the centuries to Niebuhr’s pulpit and eventually to the folding chairs of recovery meetings — speaks to something universal in the human condition.

The struggle to release what we cannot hold, and the courage to act on what we can, is not a Christian problem or a recovery problem. It is the human problem, and this prayer names it with a directness and grace that few words have ever matched.

Explore The Serenity Prayer

Few prayers have traveled as far, or touched as many lives, as the Serenity Prayer. Known to millions through Alcoholics Anonymous and other Twelve Step programs, it began not as a recovery tool but as a theologian’s private petition — a moment of honest reckoning with the limits of human will and the necessity of divine grace. - Richard Edward Ward - Reconnection With Spirit

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